Confucius Part 3

I really don't understand why Confucius thinks that just because someone might be a good family member automatically makes them a good citizen, or why a bad family member would make a bad citizen. What is really the correlation between those two things, if any? Confucius states, "It is rare for a man whose character is such that he is good as a son and obedient as a young man to have the inclination to transgress against his superiors." (15) Is that all it means to be a good citizen? To not try to transgress against his "superiors"? What if his "superiors" were wrong? What if they were evil? How is the measure of a good citizen based off of obedience? How often does obedience actually make for a better government, or a better world? And why are all of his quotes about the son obeying his father, being good to his father? Does the son need to do these things for his mother? And what about the daughter? Does she not have to obey or be good to anyone? It is very disappointing to see that Confucius didn't even want to bother with the idea of women in his teachings.